Navigating the Perils of Overseas Relationships: A Cautionary Tale
Before going abroad, I thought the term "extramarital affair" was a distant concept for us. I thought, what could be more important than making money abroad? But when I arrived overseas, I realized that everyone is just ordinary people with emotions and desires. When loneliness and solitude strike, not everyone is as strong as they seem.
Ultimately, being abroad still involves interacting with people. Spending time with some people may sour the relationship over time. Be careful of these three acquaintances around you, as they are most likely to become extramarital lovers. Never do anything that you'll regret.
The first type is the opposite sex who traveled abroad with you. You knew each other before going abroad, and choosing to go together was for mutual assistance. There are many days of mutual companionship abroad, and habits are scary things. Being far away from home can make one feel lonely, and having such a confidant around can lead to special emotions.
I've seen opposite-sex friends who went abroad to work together and ended up living like a couple overseas. They kept it a secret from their families back home. Although they felt a bit of warmth abroad, they unintentionally hurt two families. Once something like this starts, it's hard to back out.
The second type is the confidant you meet while working abroad. Many people spend the first half of their lives in a daze. When they reach marriageable age, they marry someone they don't particularly like or dislike and come abroad to make money. They tell themselves to work hard every day, but rarely ask themselves what they really want in life.
The confidant you meet at work must be someone you get along with very well and gives you feelings you've never had before. Just make sure to think clearly whether you became confidants because of loneliness or because you've truly met the person who understands you the most in this lifetime.
The bonds between people are hard to come by. Sometimes a turn is all it takes to never want to see someone again. Those who choose to turn away don't lack emotions; they just carry heavier responsibilities, like supporting their families or striving for a better life for their loved ones.
The third type is the roommate or neighbor you share a rental with abroad. Sharing a house or being neighbors with compatriots abroad is very common. Initially, everyone does it for convenience and to save money. Perhaps the lonely days abroad are hard to bear, and some people start seeing roommates or neighbors as family and develop feelings. Then they end up living together. Whether it's an impulsive decision or a well-considered one, I want to say that adults should take responsibility for their actions. When you enjoy the warmth of companionship, have you ever stopped to think if this kind of life is sustainable? If your family and loved ones back home find out, how heartbroken would they be?
Everyone has emotions, especially when feeling sad or upset abroad. They truly long for a shoulder to lean on. However, pursuing extramarital affairs recklessly only ruins all the relationships you've built in this lifetime. Fate is sometimes fair; as you get closer to some people, you naturally drift away from others. It's a pity that some fleeting encounters only last for a while. If you lose those who truly care for and cherish you because of a moment of impulsiveness, it's really not worth it. Starting over sounds simple, but it's not simple at all when it comes to action.
